Up and Coming


Hey gang, I miss reading many of your blogs! I hope to have some time this week to finally catch up.

So many things in the works. As many of you know, Christine and I over at bXg along with SoulForce and the LGBT Resource Center at UC Irvine will host the first ever Ex-Gay Survivor Conference in Irvine, CA the weekend of June 29-July 1, 2007. I don’t know yet how many we will have at the various events, but the response has been amazing from survivors and concerned allies on the West Coast, throughout the US and from as far away as Toronto, NYC and London.

All day today I have talked to people coming to the conference to present their films or art or to just join in the discussion. No doubt this will be a historic event and will change some people’s understanding of ex-gay experiences. This will be true of survivors themselves who may not ever had the opportunity to effectively unpack their former experiences–the motivations behind seeking change, the good that came of their quest, and the harm they caused themselves and others. Allies will also learn much more about the broader issues in the life of ex-gay survivors and the complexity of the struggle that many of us faced.

I spoke with a reporter today who asked about the “dueling conferences” and if ours was a reaction to the Exodus conference. I explained that I don’t see it that way. Exodus has presented their conference for decades. Loads of people have protested it in the past. Ours is not a protest or designed to harass Exodus leaders or ex-gays. We seek a positive response to the Exodus conference and damage that many of us had done to ourselves (often with assistance from others).

Also the conference will give Exodus leaders a chance to hear other stories, stories that they may not hear often. What happens to someone after they leave an Exodus ministry or ex-gay therapy? Typically these programs have no follow-up or aftercare. The years of depression, confusion, discouragement and loss happen out of ear shot of many ex-gay leaders.

The conference will provide people an opportunity to tell their stories in many formats (Internet, written narratives, art, etc) so that these stories will reach the ears and hopefully the hearts of ex-gay leaders, pastors, parents and others who encourage (or even force) people into ex-gay experiences.

Exodus used to be a ministry that tried to help people struggling with a variety of issues. Today it functions more as a lobbying group in DC tyring to limit the rights of LGBT people. Within Exodus are so many people, many who I have met, many who have good hearts and noble intentions. They still want to help people. They believe that ex-gay ministry is the best they can offer. Many of us have found something better and have reclaimed our lives. We want the opportunity to share this with each other and anyone who may be interested in hearing.

This post has 6 Comments

  1. Brian on June 13, 2007 at 5:53 am Reply

    In back in LA now that Equality Ride is over and I’ll be stopping by to say hello to everyone! Can’t wait and best of luck with the final preparations.

  2. Anna HP on June 13, 2007 at 4:49 pm Reply

    And I miss your comments. And you .. have lots to tell you about what’s going on but take your time and visit my blog when ever you find your time ..

  3. just me on June 15, 2007 at 9:59 pm Reply

    Hi. I’m a new visitor and just found your blog… Good stuff.

  4. Peterson Toscano on June 16, 2007 at 1:44 am Reply

    Brian–great to see you back safe and sound.

    anna hp–hope u have photos up.

    just me–welcome!!! can’t wit to get to know you.

  5. Anna HP on June 16, 2007 at 11:00 am Reply

    of course there are pictures .. what kind of lesbian do you take me for?? 🙂

  6. Bene on June 19, 2007 at 7:31 am Reply

    What a great idea.

    There is a time for picketing, but I would think it fuels fears those that attend Exodus meetings have. I read their audience is mostly parents,friends, relatives of GLBT and the obligatory evangelical well meaning pastors.

    Good to hear there are going to be private meetings between Exodus and your conference. Because they’ve become a US lobby group, the face to face is important. I hope SoulForce will be able to teach some of their none violent techniques.

    It deeply disturbs me to read that Exodus is expanding to other countries, taking money from vulnerable people who cannot afford to economically feed a US political agenda.

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