Category: transgender

The Many Complications Trans People Face While Traveling

I have a dear friend who lives in Canada. I am always looking for opportunities to hang out with him, yet we only ever met  during trips I made to British Columbia. One time I suggested he come to the States for a conference, and  then we could co-present a workshop and hang out. He replied, “I’d love to but travel for me right now is not easy. Traveling while trans sucks.”

International travel can become a very vulnerable experience for someone who is trans or gender non-conforming. Knowing the local laws and customs is important. India Hayes for CNN

This was not the first time I heard this from a trans or gender non-binary person. The difficulties, costs, and legal limitations in changing a gender marker on a government issue ID makes it nearly impossible to cross international borders. Going through security is a pain for lots of people, but for many trans/gender non-binary people, it can be a humiliating and dehumanizing experience.

Even within the borders of the USA, I hear about the obstacles and risks trans people face while traveling. One friend from Florida drove hundreds of miles out of her way to avoid the state of North Carolina during the infamous bathroom ban that demanded people use the public toilet that coincided with the biological sex they were assigned at birth.

Traveling as a Trans Person: It’s Complicated

CNN just published an excellent piece written by Allison Hope, which highlights some of these travel challenges for transgender and gender non-binary people.

Trans people as a group face a higher incidence of harassment, frequent discrimination and even violence without leaving their hometowns, much less venturing far beyond them. Within the trans community, trans women and trans women of color especially, deal with these issues at an even higher rate.
Travel adds an exponential unknown to the equation, which can make everything from going through airport security, hailing a cab, renting an apartment, or engaging in an excursion a potential risk.
Of course having the sort of job that requires travel, or the resources to travel for fun, is, itself, a luxury that many trans people — who experience poverty, homelessness and unemployment at rates that far exceed the general population — simply cannot enjoy. And yet, the challenges for trans travelers can be significant.
Allison also features people telling some of their stories. Regarding the hassles of getting through TSA security, Jules shares,
“I scramble their signals and cause a meltdown,” Jules said, referring to the way scanners and pat-downs are often ill-suited to the bodies and sensitivities of passengers who are not cisgender. (The term “cisgender” refers to people whose gender identity aligns with the sex assigned to them at birth.) One time, at an airport en route from New York City to Rochester, a TSA officer grabbed Jules’ chest without warning, mumbling something about how she thought Jules was male but was wrong.

Jules has come to realize that speaking to the TSA officer while going through security causes them to read Jules as female, which, even though it’s not how they identify, has helped reduce the number of pat-downs and heightened scrutiny.

Jules also adopted a cumbersome ritual pre-security to change clothes — removing a binder, a piece of clothing that flattens the chest, because it has caused confusion with TSA officers about whether to process them as male or female — and then changes back after going through the checkpoint.

Transportation — whether by air or ground — isn’t the only risk trans or gender non-conforming people face. India Hayes for CNN

The article goes on to highlight the frustrations trans travelers face when accessing hotels, AirBnB, taxis, and Ubers. Alison Hope also offers a list of things travelers can do to better protect themselves from some of the most common problems trans and gender non-binary people face.

Injustice + Climate Change = Bigger Travel Woes

As a result of these injustices and inhumane experiences, many trans people avoid travel unless they simply must. During a time of climate change when we are seeing more and more forced evacuations because of extreme weather events, many people find themselves traveling last minute with the added burden of worrying over what might happen to their home and possessions. People living in rental properties in poorer neighborhoods that are more vulnerable to the risks of extreme weather, often lose everything in the storm and have to start from scratch, without insurance money and little to no government assistance that property owners receive.

Traveling with a companion can help transgender people feel more at ease. India Hayes for CNN

If someone has a hard time traveling and crossing borders on a pleasant sunny day, what happens when all hell breaks loose, the waters rise, and we see temporary sudden mass migration? As a threat multiplier, climate change does not only cause larger and stronger storms, we are also added threats affecting rights, mobility, and leading to greater suffering.

What can a Cis Person do?

Being aware of these issues, cisgender people in solidarity with trans and non-binary people can be helpful. If you run an AirBnB property, be explicit about welcoming LGBT people, particularly transgender and non-binary people. Be prepared to welcome guests when they are displaced because of extreme weather (or because of harassment or the many reasons why LGBTQ people need to leave home to find sanctuary.) You can also be willing to travel with friends.
When a big weather events hits, like a hurricane or flood, be curious about what is happening for LGBTQ people. Find out who is providing aid and assistance and support that work through your financial donations. Also, support the work of local trans/non-binary efforts to build community and LGBTQ youth shelters. Multiple studies reveal that when a community is close-knit and cohesive before an extreme weather event, more people survive. Consider donating to the Trans Justice Funding Project, which provides grants for local trans-run groups doing work in their community.

Dig Deeper

Read Allison Hope’s piece for yourself. It is essential reading for people who aspire to be allies to trans/gender non-binary people.
If you are curious to know more about how climate change and extreme weather affect LGBTQ and migrants without legal documentation, check out the piece I wrote for the American Public Health Association, In the Same Boat, Not the Same Deck.

Please feel free to leave a comment about your own travels stories and any tips and advice you have for traveling.

How you can promote justice for transgender people?

Art by Amir Khadar in collaboration with TGI Justice Project. Feel free to download this piece of art and many others here.

Today is the day the Trump Administration’s ban of transgender people from serving in the military goes into affect. I joke, as a Quaker pacifist, I would be happy to see even more of these bans limiting who serves in the military. I say bring back the ban on gays and lesbians. We should ban all women, cis and trans from serving. Let’s ban all men, cis and trans from serving. In fact, let’s ban everyone from serving in the military. But that is my pacifist fantasy.

Banning trans people in any area of society is unjust, regardless of how any one of us feels about the military. It reinforces the false notion that some people are more reliable and valuable than others in our society. It stigmatizes and marginalizes people who already face discrimination in every area of society. Just like churches have been impoverished by driving LGBTQ people out, similarly any institution that bans trans people becomes weaker from the brain and heart drain they perpetuate. These bans undermine the safety and wellbeing of trans and gender non-binary people.

Download the annual report–it is filled with wonderful stories.

I am continually impressed by the Trans Justice Funding Project (TJFP) In a time when transgender and non-binary people are asserting themselves in a society that does not yet fully value them, this project is essential work. TJFP raises money, lots of it. $650,000 in 2018. They invite transgender groups (with budgets less than 250,000) to submit proposals for grants. TJFP then convenes a team of transgender justice folks to read ever application to determine who gets what.

TJFP never stipulates how the groups use the money–they trust the groups to do what they need to do with it. They also give money to groups that have and do not have non-profit status (recognizing it is not an easy or cheap process to getting non-profit status.) In their most recent annual report, they explain:

The Trans Justice Funding Project is about investing in trans communities who are making decisions by and for ourselves. In the last six years, we’ve received 877 applications and distributed 717 grants through our community-led process, with funds we’ve raised that total over $1.9 million!

Gabriel Foster, Co-founder and Executive Director

I am a monthly donor to the TJFP. Whenever I have a little extra money, I send it to them as well. I encourage people to give to this group. If you are someone who is alarmed at how transgender and non-binary people are treated, if you feel it is wrong and something needs to be done, here is an excellent way to contribute to the positive work by trans people for trans people. Give up something for a week or two and use that money to support TJFP. Have a fundraiser and donate to TJFP. Pool together with friends and send in a donation. Even consider being a monthly donor–even as little as $5 a month.

This year I will increase my monthly giving to Trans Justice Funding Project.

Click here to find out how you can contribute to this great work.

CA Gov. Brown Signs Non-Binary Identification Option Bill

I often talk about we LGBTQ folks are all in the same boat together, but not on the same deck. Some of us face more challenges than others. As a healthy, sefl-employed, legally partnered, cisgender, white gay guy in rural PA, I face few risks in housing, employment, and in public. But there is an epidemic of discrimination and violence for lots of LGBTQ folks in the USA. Transgender women of color, who currently have a significally lower life expectance, face a slew of troubles in every area of life.

Mark Snyder, Equality Federation

Similarly gender non-binary people face multiple legal and social challenges all over the USA and beyond. Today it just got better.  We hear good news out of California where Governor Jerry Brown has signed several bills into law that will ensure fairness and equality for LGBTQ Californians including a bill that will allow for a nonbinary gender marker on state issued IDs, a bill of rights protecting LGBTQ seniors, and an update to the state’s HIV criminalization laws.

SB 179, the Gender Recognition Act, will create a nonbinary gender marker option for state issued IDs and streamline the currently burdensome process for transgender people to change their gender markers.

Mark Snyder, Director of Communications at the Equality Federation in San Francisco said,

I’ve never been more proud to live in California, and I can’t wait to change my driver’s license to reflect my nonbinary gender. “Nonbinary and transgender people are your friends, family, and neighbors. We are part of the fabric of this state and nation. This commonsense law will eliminate unnecessary barriers for people like me, enabling us to live free from the discrimination we endure when our IDs don’t match our true selves.

I  add my voice along with Equality Federation in thanking to the Governor for his steadfast allyship, and congratulates Equality California, Transgender Law Center, and all of the advocates and families who worked so hard for these victories.

Learn more about this bill and what it means over at Equality Federation.

So you want to be a transgender ally?

More and more I hear faith communities, schools, and organizations declare they want to do the work needed to stand in solidarity with transgender and gender non-binary people. This is good news.

While some have educated themselves and committed time and money towards learning about “gay and lesbian issues,” most groups still have lots to learn about transgender and gender non-binary people and their experiences in the world.

Many cisgender gays and lesbians remain ignorant to the specific challenges many transgender and gender non-binary people face. We all have a lot to learn. As we do, we strengthen our communities and can better offer meaningful companionship and solidarity.

There are many excellent people providing education and training. In this post I highlight two people I know who can help you and your group in deepening your understanding of transgender and gender non-binary issues.

J Mase III

J Mase III

J Mase III is a Black/trans/queer poet based in Seattle, by way of NYC. He is the author of “If I Should Die Under the Knife, Tell my Kidney I was the Fiercest Poet Around”, as well as “And Then I Got Fired: One Transqueer’s Reflections on Grief, Unemployment, and Inappropriate Jokes about Death”.

As an educator, J Mase has worked with thousands of community members in the US, the UK, and Canada on the needs of LGBTQIA youth and adults in spaces such as K-12 schools, universities, faith communities, and restricted care facilities among others.

He is the founder of awQward, the first ever trans and queer people of color specific talent agency.

His work and musings have been featured on MSNBC, NBC OUT, Essence Live, Atlanta Black Star, GO Magazine, Believe Out Loud, Everyday Feminism, Black Girl Dangerous, Upworthy, the New York Times, Buzzfeed, the Root, the Huffington Post and more.

J Mase and I will co-lead a workshop at the upcoming Philadelphia Transgender Health Conference. He like me is also a Bible geek of sorts, and we will present Gender Outlaws in the Bible. In addition to his presentations and workshops, J Mase III has been providing a platform for other trans people of color through the awQward talent agency. See their full list of presenters including J Mase III.

Scott Turner Schofield

Scott Turner Schofield

He is an openly trans actor, currently appearing in the American TV program, The Bold and the Beautiful. A skilled writer and actor, Scott has toured the US and Europe with his original one-person shows. Wherever he has gone, he has led workshops on transgender issues. He explains,

My purpose in life is to inspire you, your school, your job, and your family to embrace transgender people. I am a business consultant, personal coach, and educational spokesperson – and one of the top speakers in the nation on the topic of transgender identity.

What that means is, I have a ton of experience at a very high level helping people “get” this “transgender thing.” Whether it’s for you, your family, or your workplace, I am here to help you.

Recently he has begun to offer on-line live workshops for groups. Saving the expense of travel and other expenses, you can video conference Scott in to present to your group. Here is what he offers:

We will work 1 on 1, I’ll meet you where you are, and we’ll address what matters to you on this topic with compassion, in-depth knowledge, and humor!

This might include (but is not limited to):

– Terminology and concepts
– Practical how-to information so you can feel confident interacting with transgender people
– Facts and sensitive analysis on hot topics like bathrooms and the military
Individual & Family
– Transition facts and strategies
– How to be sensitive and supportive
Business / Community
– Changing, creating, and implementing nondiscrimination policies
– Creating and being a part of a supportive workplace

Sessions run hourly. Multi-session discounts available.

For more info on scheduling Scott Turner Schofield, check out his Fiverr page.

Retreating Forward — Newest Trans Spirituality Resource

David E. Weekley (photo above,) an ordained elder in the United Methodist Church, came out as a trans man almost 10 years ago. He had transitioned decades before, but felt it was time to let the church know. He believed that his faith community was ready. He hoped they would learn and grow into a community that embraced transgender people and opened up the church and the ministry to include all.

It didn’t exactly go that way. In many ways they failed the test he set before them. The road has been tough for transgender people of faith like David. In response, David decided to return to seminary to research how he could better serve the transgender community. He also wanted to create resources that would strengthen the faith experiences of transgender people and build community.

His new book Retreating Forward–A Spiritual Practice with Transgender Persons explores a retreat experience that David organized for a group of transgender and gender non-binary people. I had the honor of serving has a helper on the retreat, assisting David as he built community and opportunities. The book does an exceptional job of providing the background to the retreat and the theory behind everything he did. David had a vision and pursued it. Now he shares the insights he discovered.

David’s book is now available from Morningstar Press.

Transgender people are among the most marginalized and vulnerable populations in the world. Misinformation, lack of education, and lack of experience among cis-gendered persons often result in forms of violence and abuse directed towards those perceived as transgender or gender non-conforming. Such violence and abuse are not restricted to secular culture but expand into faith communities and essential forms of spiritual care and support. When transgender people of faith share the reality of their gender identity they often experience rejection by the very communities that should provide support, encouragement, and practical ministries of hospitality. Retreating Forward: A Spiritual Practice with Transgender Persons is an educational and practical resource for individuals, spiritual leaders, and faith communities seeking to provide practical and spiritual sustenance. The retreat model included in this text proved transformational for those involved.

Powerful public statement concerning Black, trans, and gnc community

On Twitter my friend, Jed, sent me a link to Radical Faggot’s post about the recent murder of TT Saffore and the public statement issued by a coalition of Black, trans, and gender-nonconforming community members. In addition to highlighting the pain and injustice Black, trans, and gnc people face, they put out a clear statement of what the community needs right now.

I hear many say they wish to stand in solidarity with Black, trans, and gnc people. You may be an LGBTQ community leader, clergy, lawmaker, student leader, or citizen and want to know what needs to be done to end this violence. Take time to read the following statement and see where you can go deeper in your support and action.

On September 11, 2016 TT Saffore, a young, Black, trans woman was found murdered in a park on Chicago’s West Side. Today, a coalition of Black, trans and gender-nonconforming community members have organized a vigil and march in the Lakeview neighborhood to honor her death. Here is their public statement:

Another Black, trans life has been violently taken.

Last month TT Saffore was killed on Chicago’s West Side. Her passing marked the 20th trans murder of 2016. Today, members of the Black, trans and gender-nonconforming community of Chicago and our allies join together not only to mourn the loss of a sister, but to collectively imagine a future for Black, trans people free from violence in all its insidious forms.

We know that the state does not mourn the loss of Black lives. We know the names of Black women lost to violence are held up even less than those of Black men. We know queer, trans and gnc deaths are often hushed by Black communities in addition to being ignored by the state. We accept none of these realities.

Less than a week after TT was stolen from us, Crystal Edmonds, another Black, trans woman was shot and killed in Baltimore, MD. Bresha Meadows, a fifteen year-old cis, Black girl currently sits in jail in Warren, OH, charged with murder after defending her mother from an abusive partner. The epidemic of violence against trans and cis Black women and girls must be treated as an emergency, and a charge for the entire Black community to take up.

State violence is more than just police shootings. It is the policing and prison systems themselves. It is the criminalizing of sex work, of the survivors of abuse. It is a legal order which treats Black, trans and cis women who defend their lives as insolent, in need of punishment. It is homelessness. It is the calculated impoverishing of Black communities. It is the closing of public schools and mental health clinics, the slashing of HIV prevention and other healthcare services, while militarization devours the lion’s share of public funds. It is gentrification. It is the poisoning of natural resources. It is all the structures—including the police and prison systems—which uphold and depend on violent masculinity, reinforcing the disposability of women and femmes, of trans and gnc communities, of the earth itself.

Today, we are gathering in the Lakeview neighborhood to love and support each other, but also to flex our collective power. The choice of location is not coincidental: Though this area of the city is one of the most accessible to the trans community–and where some of the only trans-specific resources are centralized–it is also the site of the hyper-policing of queer and trans homeless youth, the racist displacement of poor, Black and Brown communities, a meeting place for the crossroads of oppression at which Black, trans women find themselves.

We are here not to showcase our pain–though we will express it–but instead to make our demands audible to all our Black, trans and queer family members. This is what the Black, trans and gnc community needs right now:

  • Education On Our Issues – Pronouns are not enough! A massive project of education is needed to teach our employers, our neighbors, community members and other activists about the oppressions faced specifically by Black, trans and gnc people. We demand our people dedicate themselves to learning about Black, trans misogyny, and the unique barriers that keep Black, trans people from living full lives.
  • Employment – We support the Fight For 15, and demand living wage jobs for Black, trans and gnc people in all fields of employment, especially in leadership roles within organizations that claim to fight for trans issues.
  • Safer Spaces – Black, trans and gnc people need inclusion in existing movement spaces, but we also need spaces of our own. We demand resources be allotted to projects and organizations run by Black, trans people for Black, trans people.
  • Housing – We demand shelters and affordable housing designated specifically for trans youth and elders, in the neighborhoods in which they choose to live.
  • Free, Affirming, Accessable Healthcare: We demand free access to hormones, needles, gender affirming surgeries, STI testing, and all our other basic health needs, provided directly in the neighborhoods where we live. We include in this free access to mental health services–provided by other trans and gnc people–which view us as in need of healing, not fixing.
  • Decriminalize Sex Work – We reject the criminalizing of Black, trans and gnc people for choosing their own means of survival. We demand the decriminalization of all sex work. We include in this vision the revoking of anti-sex trafficking laws–disguised as feminist endeavors–which target trans and cis Black women, resulting in their incarceration.
  • End Solitary Confinement – Solitary is torture, not protection. We support the national #PrisonStrike, demand trans and gnc inmates stop being held in solitary under the guise of safety, and that solitary be ended as a practice for all incarcerated people.
  • Abolition Now – We demand that, to make these other demands possible, money be cut from police, prisons, detention centers and the military, and invested back into Black, trans and gnc communities.  We demand the police, prisons and military be defunded, disarmed, and ultimately disbanded, replaced with resources that support Black, trans growth.

Every time a trans person is murdered, it is an act of state violence, no matter who commits the act. The legal stigma of sex work, the denial of housing and worker’s rights, the shaming of those who love and are attracted to trans people, and the endless cutting of needed services all send the constant message that Black, trans lives aren’t worth protecting, aren’t worth fighting for. We are here today to reject that message.

The New Orleans-based trans youth empowerment organization BreakOUT! has a well-known slogan: Give us our roses while we’re still here! We are tired of mourning Black, trans deaths. We are here to celebrate Black, trans life, and remind ourselves of the power we have to fight for a world where trans murders are as obsolete as the police, the prison system, and the order of social, economic and environmental exploitation that relies on them.

We will see that world. We are strong and numerous enough to build it.




Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of a Safe, Legal Place to Pee

You have the right to urinate! (some restrictions apply)

The recent spate of laws limiting access to public restrooms must sound ridiculous to many people living outside of the USA. The bizarre talking points put forward by proponents of these so called “Bathroom Bills” would be funny if they did not create such a serious situation and deepen existing oppression.

My favorite preacher lady sheds some light on this subject as she reveals the sinister side of American bathroom stalls. Well and the silliness of them too.

Or watch it on YouTube


Driving While Transgender

northcarolina-bathroomlawA friend of mine recently travelled from Florida to Pennsylvania by car. She is transgender and is open about her gender history. The most direct route to PA takes her through theNorth Carolina. Because of the NC law demanding people use public restrooms based on their biological sex as stated on their birth certificate, my friend circumnavigated around the great big state of North Carolina, and went another way.

It took time and gas money. But she wanted to be safe. She also did not want to contribution to North Carolina’s economy.  No one wants to travel alone long distances with the looming fear that some great harm will happen when stepping into a restroom.

Broken Justice and Flimsy Stalls

bathroom_women_getty_1368181365452_413147_ver1.0_320_240Elizabeth Jeremiah, one of the characters that haunts my brain and my performance work, is an Evangelical preacher woman. She has a completely different take on the issue.

In the comic video above, replete with flushing toilet sounds, she points out,

“I think the problem is not the people; the problem is the bathroom. Because I don’t know about you, but I feel mighty exposed when I am in a bathroom stall.”

Made in America–the See-through Stall

**CORRECTS DATE TO SEPT. 17 ** The stalls in the men's room at the Minneapolis St. Paul International Airport where U.S. Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, was arrested June 11 by a Minneapolis airport police officer., are shown Monday Sept. 17, 2007. The Idaho Republican pleaded guilty to misdemeanor disorderly conduct. Craig has since said his guilty plea was a mistake. "It's become a tourist attraction," said Karen Evans, information specialist at the Minneapolis-St. Paul International Airport. "People are taking pictures." AP Photo/Andy King)

The stalls in the men’s room at the Minneapolis St. Paul International Airport where U.S. Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, was arrested June 11 by a Minneapolis airport police officer., are shown Monday Sept. 17, 2007. The Idaho Republican pleaded guilty to misdemeanor disorderly conduct. Craig has since said his guilty plea was a mistake. “It’s become a tourist attraction,” said Karen Evans, information specialist at the Minneapolis-St. Paul International Airport. “People are taking pictures.” AP Photo/Andy King)

After seeing Elizabeth Jeremiah’s video, Lisel, a friend from South Africa advocates for trans rights got a flashback to her first encounters with public toilets in America.

I remember my utter shock slash understanding the first time in 2008 being in the States and saw for my self these toilette doors that literally just cover from the lower edge of the seat to the height of a medium length-person’s head. Oh, yes and the sides were kinda open.

I was both amused, shocked and immediately understood the many posts and articles, blogs I read by trans* people always complaining or lamenting about how people will see if they stand or sit, even when they are in stalls. I could not really understand the issue (me being used to SA public bathrooms) – I thought they are dramatizing the issue. Until I used for the first time a public bathroom in the States. I already thought way back in 2008 – ‘that is the solution: change the cubicle doors’ – that’s all!

Supporting Transgender Leadership

I am a huge fan of the work being done by the Trans Justice Funding Project. They are a trans run organization that provides grants to trans people and organizations. According to their website:

Over the last three years, we have received 354 applications and given away 174 small grants totaling $400,000. This work has been possible because hundreds of donors have joined us and because our communities have supported us in so many ways. Let’s continue to dream big and fund even more trans justice work in 2016!

18272129efccda4d41ec54c514b99c62-form_assembly_bannerThere is a lot we can do to stand in solidarity with transgender people as they too work to enjoy life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Perhaps the best way to help is to support groups like Trans Justice Funding Project–give those American dollars.

Declaration of Bathroom Independence

While American citizens celebrate the declaration of independence from tyrannical British rule, I need to remind myself that not all Americans are equally free. Systemic, legal discriminations against Black Americans, immigrants, and trans people need to be exposed and challenged. Everyone deserves to move freely, to congregate without fear of retaliation, and to safely sit for a nice private and challenged-free pee and/or poop.

And maybe it is time that we question the need for gendered bathrooms at all. There are plenty of people who do not identify as male or female. Enough with putting people into boxes and gendered stalls. Let’s construct proper walls around our stalls and open up the bathroom area so we do not have to maintain two separate facilities.

Oh, and don’t forget to wash your hands.


First Person: A Life in Transition a new play premieres in Twin Cities

A Golden Age of Storytelling

We live in a golden age of storytelling. With podcasts like The Moth and This American Life and slam poets like J Mase III weaving art with autobiography, we have so many examples of good storytelling.

Of course the performance memoir has been a feature of American alternative theater spaces and even mainstream theaters since the 1980’s. Queer performance artists in the USA have a long history and lineage.

A new queer voice and body in performance

Photo credit: 20% Theatre FB page

Photo credit: 20% Theatre FB page

So I was thrilled to hear about JamieAnn Meyers new show, First Person: A Life in Transition. It will run May 13-15 as part of 20% Theater Twin Cities Stage series of emerging artists. In an interview JamieAnn talks about her identity as a “trans elder” and the ever evolving aspect of her identities.

What aspects of your queer identity do you hope to express through your Q-STAGE piece?

The primary aspect of my queer identity that I want to emerge is that it has evolved over the entirety of my lifetime and this evolution is ongoing.  I’m what many would call a “trans elder.”  I came out in my late 50’s and am now 70 years old.  People often ask me “when did you transition?”  My answer is “from when I was a fetus, until long after my death.”  (Peoples’ memories of my life will evolve after my death as their own personal and societal contexts evolve.)

It’s been a lifetime of discovery, of peeling back the many layers of my identity and expression, and discovering the seeds that have grown into who I am today.  When I first uncovered my childhood feelings of gender difference in middle age, I realized that I was part of the transfeminine spectrum; I later identified myself in therapy as bi-gender.  When I began my social transition, I identified in the binary as female.  My recent gender confirmation surgery has finally liberated me and enabled me to come out as fluid.  I’ve also been enabled to claim my orientation as bisexual.  And the journey continues.  What identity will I claim in another five years?  I don’t know.

Twin Cities and Beyond!

JamieAnn hopes to take this show on the road. I hope she does because after having met her last year and experiencing her presence, her enthusiasm, and her artistic vision, I felt immediately that she has both the skill and the drive to create a show that tell stories that will not only educate the public but help up better understand ourselves and the world around us.

Embodying Our Stories

What I am most excited about is how she embodies her stories. For many of us queer people, our bodies have been the scene of trauma and battle. She is someone rooted in her body and skilled to use it as she tells her stories.

If you live near the Twin Cities, I urge you to check out JamieAnn Meyers’ show



Created by & starring JamieAnn Meyers
Directed by Shalee Coleman
Also featuring Zealot Hamm, Erica Fields, Beckett Love, Suzi Love & Pearl Noonan

Each of us has a different story, and “FIRST PERSON” is one transwoman’s unvarnished truth. It’s the story of her life-long transition, a life that’s being lived “halfway up, halfway down,” in-between, and her claiming CHANGE as her identity.

WARNING: Adult language & content, nudity

SET “B” ft. A.P. Looze & Gender Tender
May 20 at 730pm – opening night party
May 21 at 730pm – post-show discussion
May 22 at 2pm

20% Theatre Company

Get your tickets now!

Also check out what else is playing



Directed & Choreographed by Syniva Whitney
Featuring Will Courtney & Syniva Whitney (aka Gender Tender)
Installation Art by Madeleine Bailey, Music by Ariskany Records

Two non-binary bodies in queer love are willing to get into any position necessary to make it work. Dance and acting collide in this Gender Tender performance as Will Courtney and Syniva Whitney make a fictitious home for themselves in a world made up of black and white stripes, binary investigations, drag inspired relationship building and imaginary home renovation.



Created & Performed by A.P. Looze
Also featuring Lisa Marie Brimmer
Directed by Zoe Michael

Grief is in the room. What do you do? You could avoid it. You could crack a joke about it. You could run away from it, pretend it’s not there, tune it out. You could sheepishly wave, or even greet it with a warm hug and say, Hello. Join A.P. Looze and their Most Honored Guests in a series of experiments that examine the limitless depths of grief and its ability to become your most intimate companion.

WARNING: Adult language & content

Q-STAGE is made possible through support from the California Institute for Contemporary Arts (CICA) LGBTQ funding program.


Beyond Marriage Equality: Transgender people and criminal justice

Have you read any of the New York Times’ series of editorials on transgender lives and issues? Transgender Today presents essays that have highlighted equality, workplace related issues, access to public restrooms, romance, transgender people in the military, and visibility. While my non-violent, anti-war Quaker sensibilities get ruffled by pieces entitled, Transgender in the C.I.A., I find it encouraging that the New York Times is devoting so much space and thought to transgender issues. These are not just guest op-eds either; rather these pieces come with the byline: The Editorial Board. The views represent the opinions of the newspaper’s editors. And while they expound on critical issues, the writers also focus on individual stories.


poster during the campaign to free CeCe McDonald

The most recent editorial in the Transgender Today series is about incarceration and transgender people. Prisons and Jails Put Transgender People at Risk.  The editors write about Estrella Sánchez:

Ms. Sánchez, a 28-year-old transgender woman from Mexico, was held in immigration detention for nearly a year, beginning in 2012. She was placed in solitary confinement for a month, solely because of her gender identity. At every place she was held, inmates directed slurs at her in front of guards, who routinely laughed. The harassment she faced in detention was a cruel reminder of the abuse she suffered in Mexico, which she had hoped to escape when she came to the United States in 2005.

They go on to graphically outline the abuses Ms Sánchez experienced in detention then give us a small window into what her life is like now that she has begun a new life in the US outside of prison.

They then outline myriad issues affecting most transgender people confronted by the criminal justice system.

In the United States, transgender people are routinely subjected to harassment, but few are as powerless as those in prison. As more have become vocal about their safety and their rights, prison systems that segregate inmates along conventional gender lines are facing mounting challenges. While a few have changed housing policies, the vast majority have not.

Transgender people are much more likely than the population at large to be imprisoned at some point in their lives. They are at high risk of police discrimination and abuse; many transgender women have been searched or arrested on suspicion of prostitution based on little more than their appearance. Transgender people also face widespread employment discrimination, and many turn to illegal activities to support themselves.

When they are in custody, transgender people face disproportionate risks. According to a 2011-12 survey by the Bureau of Justice Statistics, 39.9 percent of transgender prison inmates and 26.8 percent of transgender jail inmates reported unwanted sexual activity with other inmates or sexual activity with prison staff members, which is always considered nonconsensual under the law, in the previous year — 10 times higher than for the general prison and jail populations.

img-thingAs a white, cisgender, married gay man, I am easily shielded from the harsh realities regularly faced by immigrants and inmates–most of whom are people of color. I run the risk of rejoicing in marriage equality then leaving off the fight for queer justice as I settle into domestic bliss. This is why diversity in our LGBTQ spaces  and organizations is so important. The movement becomes sound and just when we hear a variety of stories and experiences. People’s needs get revealed.  Just like lesbian, gay, and bisexual activists for marriage equality relentlessly and rightfully forced straight folks to hear stories about lesbian and gay relationships, families, discrimination, and dreams in hopes that these would move straight folks to action and justice, similarly hearing stories about the challenges faced by transgender and gender queer people can and should dislodge cisgender lesbians, bisexual, and gays from a comfortable place of ignorant complacency.

We fought for our rights, but we also benefited from those who stood alongside of us in solidarity. We must now educate ourselves about other LGBTQ folks with different experiences than our own so that we engage in the same work for justice we insisted straight people pursue. A good place to start right now is this New York Times editorial, Prisons and Jails Put Transgender People at Risk. You can read a variety of articles over at Huffington Post. Deepen your understanding and explore the National Center for Transgender Rights.

Featured image: Estrella Sánchez, a transgender woman from Mexico.CreditDamon Winter/The New York Times

Transgender in Kindergarten. Avery Found the Perfect School

07TRANSGENDER-master180Usually it is a horror story. A child reveals to parents and a teacher that she is a actually girl regardless of the male sex assigned at birth. This little girl is not at all confused about her gender. Typically this is when all hell breaks loose.

But not always.

When filling out the get-to-know you forms for the first year in kindergarten, the grandchild of a friend of mine said, “Mom, we need to tell them. That I’m really a girl.” She choose the name Avery to replace the male name that had been given to her at birth. Fortunately her parents love Avery more than her gender. And Avery’s new school became a place of joyful acceptance. Avery’s mom writes:

The Center School in Greenfield, Massachusetts has rallied for our family and our daughter Avery from the moment we met.  As soon as we enrolled they took action: creating a supportive environment that actively addressed her needs and refused to compromise her integrity.  Avery’s story inspired the school to change from gendered bathrooms to all-gender bathrooms and focus on gender-inclusivity in their socially responsible curriculum for students from preschool through 8th grade.  The administrators started a “Raising My Rainbow” book club to help educate parents and staff members about gender variance, brought the author of that book, Lori Duron, to the area to present her work, attracting over 200 people from the general public, and hired a highly reputable therapist who specializes in gender education to train the entire staff.  All of these efforts began within a month of Avery’s enrollment without ANY pressure or even suggestion from Avery’s parents.


This is a great school. One where Avery thrives. Check out this video to learn more about Avery’s story and the thoughtful, creative, and really useful ways the adults in her life responded.

But there is one problem. A small private school like Avery’s costs money to attend. Avery’s mom writes:

Due to changes in our family structure, we can no longer afford to send our daughter to her beloved school. Avery has blossomed at the Center School and needs your support to be able to continue her education at this progressive, social-justice school.  Although The Center School has established a new scholarship for Avery and families like hers (what we call trans*families), in its fledgling state, it can not yet offset Avery’s tuition.  Please help us send Avery and two other children from trans*families to The Center School for the 2015-16 school year AND help us begin our new venture: to find more safe schools like The Center School (and train schools who hope to become “safe”) for gender non-conforming children and their families.

bewhoyouarebook-300x300Lots of people talk about being allies to trans* folks and the LGBTQ community. It is wonderful when those in solidarity share articles on Facebook and Twitter, when people favorite and like posts that support trans* people. But the role of the ally is one that also requires cost. The privileged often have a little (or a lot) more that they can share with the community.

If you got this far in this blog post and are moved by Avery’s story and want to help her and other children like her have a place in the Center School, please donate something, even just $5.00. Pass on your latte or dinner and a movie, and show your support as an ally. Join in making the world a better place for Avery and kids like her.

Click here to learn more and to join me in donating.