I spent nearly 20 years deep in the bowels of the anti-gay, ex-gay movement, where they gave me weapons to my gayness and gender differences. A whole lot of bullying in Jesus’ name.
Then I came to my senses and came out gay. Ta-Daaa!
One immediate observation I noted in both the anti-gay religious world and the rainbow-clad gay community was that they both routinely invalidated bisexuals. The ex-gays didn’t believe there were bisexuals. In their eyes you were just a gay sinner gone astray needing to be lured back to the sacred safety of the heterosexual tribe lest you get crushed like a bug in this life and the next. And the gays? Well, they didn’t believe there were bisexuals either, just gays afraid to come out all the way. And they are both wrong.
The amazing bisexual activist, Robyn Ochs, writes:
DEFINITION OF BISEXUALITY: I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.