Marvin’s Declaration of Independence

In which after much soul searching about his sexuality and the possibility of “change”, Marvin announces a bold new direction in his life.

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  1. abbyladybug on July 4, 2006 at 3:44 pm Reply

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  2. Anonymous on July 4, 2006 at 3:51 pm Reply

    Well, y’know, I’m all radical and psycho and stuff, but I hope that whatever course of action you take it brings you happiness. So good luck at Love in Action; I hope manage to find some sort of peace.

  3. KJ on July 4, 2006 at 5:34 pm Reply

    We all have to experience what we need to experience before we come to the end of ourselves and realize that God has already provided everything that is needed.

  4. Steve Boese on July 4, 2006 at 6:05 pm Reply

    Wow, Marvin… big steps! I hope the next couple of weeks are very productive and fruitful for you with all of the stuff on your plate.

    I’m just a little surprised you didn’t think about this out loud with Peterson given that he’s got some relevant experience.

    I know what it’s like, though, to make a decision want to just do it, not question it or obsess about it.

  5. Joe G. on July 5, 2006 at 12:56 am Reply

    Oh, Marve. Somehow I’m not too surprised by it all, although the way you were initially talking it sounded like you were headed in the opposite direction. I guess I have to pray even more for you now. {sigh}

  6. Nillo on July 5, 2006 at 1:24 am Reply

    Wow, Marvin. If this were Harry Potter, then Peterson could send you with a little two-way mirror (just like Sirius gave to Harry in Book 5) so you could still talk to us while you are inside the Love In Action walls. But since J.K. Rowling isn’t scripting your life :-), I will just hope you’re doing the right thing and keep praying for you. [hugs]

  7. Willie Hewes on July 5, 2006 at 12:26 pm Reply

    We’ll miss you, Marvin.

    I am afraid you’ll find the ‘professionals’ at Love in Action promise more than the can deliver, and that you’ll end up not only homeless and jobless, but still gay on top of that.

    Take care.

  8. Bob Painter on July 5, 2006 at 4:29 pm Reply

    Having been through LiA, Marvin, all I can say is that I feel grieved about this decision…

  9. Ex-Ex gay Shawn O'Donnell on July 5, 2006 at 6:35 pm Reply

    Afer having experiencing a ministry like LIA myself, Marvin I really think you need to talk to Peterson before you make this desion or maybe even some other people who have experienced this life changing experience.
    Something you said in your post Marvin about addictions has me worried. I guess the question I have for you is do you think that by going there because you have addictions (and I am assuming they are sexually addictions ) will change your sexuality if your addictions are under control? See one of the reasons I went into New Hope Ministries was because I had this sexual addiction with men and because of that addiction being gay was wrong. Today, I see my addictions where what needed to be changed not be being gay. There is nothing that can change your feelings for other men, but you can have a happy and full life in Christ and be gay. I know I have been there myself. I wish the best of luck to you Marivin if this is what you decide to do. I will be praying for you. I hope all of this makes sense.

  10. Jonathan on July 5, 2006 at 6:39 pm Reply


    Just when I thought you couldn’t shake things up any more than you already have, you go and sell your house, leave Long Island (really? for the first time?) AND enroll in LiA. WOW!! Them’s sum big steps brother!

    I trust that your interactions with LiA are much more rewarding than the many other’s who have walked this path before you. Hopefully you are learning to discern the “wheat from the chaff” and if so, I think you’ll find your stay potentially rewarding (Peterson…don’t hit me please…LOL).

    By the way Peterson, what’s your take on all this?



  11. Christine on July 6, 2006 at 5:02 pm Reply

    Marvin, this really distresses me.

    However, having completely picked up and moved to a whole other state (including starting over at 1/3 of my previous pay, living in basements instead of having my own place, etc) to go to an ex-gay program, I know that you probably won’t be able to hear the voices of those who have survived these often negative experiences.

    But I really hope you’ll at least talk to Peterson about this. He’s been in that program (is that how you heard about it?), and I am really worried that it will seriously harm your self-esteem, and more importantly, your relationship with God.

    However, perhaps you are the kind of person that needs to make this last-ditch attempt. Lord knows you wouldn’t be alone in that.

    Just remember, no matter what happens there, and no matter whether your orientation changes or not…just remember that you are worth so much no matter what gender you love. You have so much to offer to the world, and in my opinion, you don’t have to change a thing.

  12. brittanicals on July 6, 2006 at 9:15 pm Reply

    Oh Marvin, Marvin, Marvin.

    Smart people learn from their mistakes, the wise from the mistakes of others.

    Not to be unkind, but I wish for your sake you could allow yourself to be wise.

  13. kurt_t on July 6, 2006 at 9:21 pm Reply


    I’ve always wanted to see Graceland.

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