I’ve begun reading Tom Hodgkinson’s How To Be Free, a super book about how to live life fully. The description on the back of the book states,
If you’ve ever wondered why you bother to go to work, or why so much consumer culture is crap, then this book is for you. Looking to history, literature and philosophy for inspiration, Tom Hodgkinson provides a joyful blueprint for a simpler and freer way of life. Filled with practical tips as well as inspiring reflections, here you can learn how to throw off the shackles of anxiety, bureaucracy, debt, governments, housework, supermarkets, waste and much else besides.
Some of the chapters include:
- Break the Bonds of Boredom
- The Tyranny of Bills and the Freedom of Simplicity
- Cast Off Your Watch
- Smash the Fetters of Fear
- Escape Debt
- Submit No More to the Machine, Use Your Hands
- Live Mortgage-Free, Be a Happy Wanderer
- Stop Working, Start Living
I think you get the idea. You can also check out the author’s website, The Idler.
The book fits in well with how I have chosen to live my life the past three years since I left the Watkinson School and gone off to do my own thing. Living without a car, in a smaller apartment, with minimal expenses has freed me to travel the world (and get to meet some of YOU who read this blog 😉
As I look to the future, I feel much more in control of my life than ever before. I cannot imagine going back to a 9-5 job like I did for years before I arrived at Watkinson. Even going back to a school, even a cool one like Watkinson, seems too constrictive for me right now.
Today marks the one year anniversary of my mom’s death. Strange how near she has felt to me all year long. I miss her tremendously, but I also feel closer to her than I ever imagined during her illness. Those people we love become part of us even when we are separated by all sorts of distances. I learned much from my mom’s life and from her death. These lessons give me a certain fearlessness and stability that I previously had not known.
Also, ever since the Ex-Gay Survivor Conference, I feel I have been released, or I have released myself to live life on a new level. I feel as if I have driven out demons from my past–the quest to be ex-gay, the oppression of a religious system that operates from place of fear, the resistance to be authentic.
I feel as if I have landed back into my body after decades of living as a disembodied, lost soul. Through my performances of Homo No Mo I purged my system of toxins and helped sort out what I had done to my life and let others do to me. I feel free and a hunger to be freer. The best gift I can give to mom and to myself is to live well. I feel excited to see what that looks like.
Thanks Trevor for taking this photo of me on top of the canal tunnel in the Cotswolds.