During the interview I gave today, the topic of my parents came up and their thoughts about gays and the ex-gay movement. I explained that while I was growing up my parents never said anything negative about homosexuality, and they never said positive, so I assumed that they felt the same way about it as all the other people in the world who made it clear that gay people were sick perverts.
At age 17 I had become a born-again, evangelical, conservative (Republican) Christian and about that same time my parents first learned that I liked other boys. My folks became more upset when they heard I had become a Christian than when they discovered I was gay.
In talking today, I remembered yet again how my parents felt traumatized by the Love in Action Family and Friends weekend. They walked away with the message, “You messed up your kid”. They felt heartbroken, years later my sister told me that for weeks they were not themselves. They couldn’t eat, the light went out in their eyes, and they barely spoke.
Today Jim Burroway posted his second reflection of his time at the recent Love Won Out anti-gay conference held in Phoenix, AZ. Most of the people who attend are parents of LGBT or questioning children (or fear they might have a queer kid). These parents come looking for answers and leave with veiled and not so veiled accusations leveled against them. Do read Jim’s posts, they are very powerful.
Prologue: Why I Went to Love Won Out
Part One: Love Won Out–What’s Love Got to Do with It
Part 2: Love Won Out–Parents Struggle with No Exception