Basketball Clinics, Nude Male Bonding and Exorcisms–>Ex-Gay Treatment

When someone attempts to “de-gay” themselves, they can try all sorts of methods. Since it is an unregulated business, most ex-gay programs use a variety of techniques in hopes of straitening out homosexuals. Some of these “treatments” have to do with sex, but typically they touch on other issues as program leaders attempt to sort out clients’ gender and relationships with their parents and in some cases they even try to cast out gay demons.

Megan Stewart
recently commented about gender and in particular masculinity in response to my blog post A Dungeon of Biblical Proportions or an Ex-Gay Program?

In recent years, I’ve noticed an almost worshipful attitude toward masculinity in the church, that marginalizes women in some of the same ways as gay men. Who would believe that in a first world nation a woman of Sarah Palin’s stature would have witches cast out of her by her minister?

But nobody’s questioned whether making an idol out of masculine heterosexuality might be problematic, because most of the people behind the pulpit are straight men, or want people to think they are.

Steven Fales, a fellow performance artist, and I appeared on the Trya Banks Show to share some of our experiences in the Ex-Gay Movement. I remember how horrified I felt when we were on stage with Tyra and they rolled the clip they created based on interviews they conducted the day before. Seeing the crazy things we did to try to become straight hit me hard (as you might notice when they first pan the camera on me and Steven right after they show the clip.) As Steven says, this is crazy making stuff.

I truly believed I would be more valuable to God and the world if I were not gay. The crazy part is that there was always another minister, counselor, therapist, deliverance team more than willing to work their magic on me. Bottom line: Gay Reparative Therapy does not work–no one actually changes from gay to straight. They only change how they identify themselves and they behave (no longer having gay sex and some attempting heterosexual sex and coupling with varying degrees of success and failure). Gay Reparative Therapy is unnecessary and in most cases causes actual harm. Check out Beyond Ex-Gay to read narratives and articles about the harm.

And check out Tyra in action as she dabbles in the ex-gay waters.


This post has 17 Comments

  1. e2c on July 28, 2009 at 7:56 pm

    Peterson – have you noticed that everything on your blog (with the exception of this post) is now in italics?

  2. p2son on July 28, 2009 at 8:20 pm

    weird. must be a wordpress problem or something. I made no changes. Hmmm.

  3. Rob on July 28, 2009 at 4:00 pm

    Very revealing.

  4. Anna Langlois on July 28, 2009 at 4:10 pm

    Talking of the deification of masculinity, how about this blog for epitomizing that!

  5. p2son on July 28, 2009 at 4:28 pm

    Yikes Anna, that is nutty. I was going to comment on his blog but didn’t know where to begin.

  6. Anna Langlois on July 28, 2009 at 4:35 pm

    He probably wouldn’t publish your comment anyway. He certainly didn’t approve the very balanced comment that I made!

  7. Sheria in South Africa on July 28, 2009 at 6:29 pm

    I watched that show straight from my johannesburg lounge-I like watching the Tyra show when time allows me to, I think it is a very informative show. SABC, bring back the Tyra show! I remember calling my helper and telling her that I used to work with Peterson. She was like, “really! So is he speaking from the sabc?” I think she had a little crush on you guys! I was like sweetie, the Tyra show is an American show…and she was clueless about what you and Steve were talking about. The “casting out demons insert” were disturbing, like something out of a horror movie…

  8. peterson toscano on July 28, 2009 at 7:23 pm

    Yeah, and KFC too! South Africans taking credit for all our stuff 🙂

  9. e2c on July 28, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    OMG. I think I need to close that browser tab right away!

  10. Rob on July 28, 2009 at 8:39 pm

    Almost have to admire his passion on being a Man, almost like he is trying to convince himself.


  11. e2c on July 29, 2009 at 1:40 am

    He’s a big Mark Driscoll fan. It figures…

    I’m also amazed by his insistence that we live in a “gender neutral” society.

  12. Sheria in South Africa on July 29, 2009 at 5:24 am

    Well, kfc is not exactly…….food. Peterson, encourage the teenagers who may read your post to eat healthy: think lots of vegetables! Kfc, fast foods? Um…..not my favourite cup of soup/tea crunchy as it may be…

  13. p2son on July 29, 2009 at 7:38 am

    Agreed, KFC is NOT food, just like Cool Whip (an American plastic product that I enjoy sugar free with no trans fats–not that I have something against trans people with fat). What South Africa does have is Harry’s Pancakes oh and Peri Peri anything and amazing fresh cut french fries. YUM!

  14. Sheria in SA on July 29, 2009 at 9:15 am


  15. lower case paul on July 30, 2009 at 12:07 pm

    “Nude male bonding”

    wow, how did I miss that session? I think I would have been instantly healed.

  16. Anna Odhner on August 1, 2009 at 3:00 am

    Interesting things you talk about. The x-gay thing is one of the scariest thing about religion nowadays I think.

    I have always found that getting married to a women-part so horrible. OK if someone decides not to live out their sexuality, but to sacrifice spouses to live in relationships where love could not happen. I find that so cruel. It makes me so sad that it’s not even seen as an issue. Talk about women having really low status.

    Thanks for great and thoughtful words.

  17. francisca on August 13, 2009 at 4:19 am

    wow thanks to share,i always came to visit ur blog 🙂

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